Sooner or later a couple in love comes to a conclusionabout the time to create a family. This is an important social process, which specialists in the field of demography and social science do not bypass. The family of a democratic type is particularly distinguished, behind which stands the future.
From a specialized vocabulary, the family is a smalla social group whose members are related by marital or blood relationship, and are also interested in organizing cohabitation and mutual assistance.
If we compare our society to a holisticorganism, the family in it will be a separate cell. From these "cells" depends the correct functioning of the entire mechanism. Therefore, the family is a cell of society, whose well-being directly affects the present and the future.
It does not matter what goals the couple is pursuing and what type of family relationships she wants to build. Family formation assumes the emergence of certain functions, among which:
In real life, it is not always possible to seethe fulfillment of all the above points, but the "reference" example of the availability of all functions is a democratic family. What it is? What features does this kind of conjugal union have?
This type is considered the most acceptable in the 21st century,because it takes into account the needs and interests of absolutely all members of the family. Unlike authoritarian married couples, there is no place for any social standards and generally accepted stereotypes.
Any democratic family is a set of conditional rules that are acceptable for both parents and their children. Here the following points are particularly important:
In such families, the small salary of a husband and the wife's big salary are not considered shameful. The wife has the right to build her career and earn big money.
Above, we gave a description of an ideal union, where equality stands first. There are also various interpretations of the partner family, which have a number of features.
1. The Patriarchal Democratic Family.
The peculiarity of such a union is the dominant role of the husband in various issues. Such a family is built on the same principles: respect, patience, concessions. However, equality is already staggering.
However, it would be wrong to consider such afamily is purely patriarchal. Although the man has the last word, he will still listen to his wife. There is no violence and other destructive processes that may appear in pure patriarchy.
2. Matriarchal Democratic Family.
In this community, the opposite is true: the primacy is transferred into the hands of a woman. Democracy manifests itself in situations where the spouse can still influence the decisions of his wife, and children have the right to express their opinion and be listened to by the mother.
It is not always possible to create an ideal conjugal union. A democratic family is the best option for relationships, but in modern realities such a pattern is very difficult to implement.
More often there are authoritarian families, where the husband (patriarchy) or the wife (matriarchy) has absolute advantage and power over the rest of the members. There is no concept of equality.
Sometimes an authoritarian family becomesstrong, and sometimes on the ground of misunderstanding, deception and stress, destructive processes occur. For example, systematic quarrels between spouses begin to occur, they are burdened by mental fatigue. As a result, the house no longer becomes the place where you want to return every day after work.
This negative impact is particularly reflected in thechildren: parents break down on them, they are constantly forbidden something, their opinion is sometimes not put in anything. The result is that children are shy, insecure, have low self-esteem, bend under the onslaught of their peers.
It is much easier to build authoritarianism in a married couple, rather than through many difficulties to try to create a cozy hearth on the basis of mutual understanding and respect, equality and support.
A democratic family is the future of any developed community. According to statistics, in most developed countries the policy of creating such conjugal unions is positive.
As proof of the perfection of partnerrelations can be noted that democracy is characteristic of the urban population, and authoritarianism is for people in rural areas, where traditions are of paramount importance. And by tradition the husband is "in power" when the wife does all the housework and obeys (sometimes suffers) her husband.
There are, of course, other types of family relations, however, democracy is objectively the best solution for securing the conjugal union in the 21st century.